Ep.52 Ask the Expert: 'Breakups, Separation & Divorce' (Part 2)

Today I’m speaking with our expert about this week’s topic. It’s practical. It hits all the hard places, and offers tips and solutions to help us move to the next level.

Episode Summary

In Part 2 of this interview with Elder and Pastor of Fellowship Tabernacle, Percival Palmer, he continues to discuss red flags, what leads to misunderstandings and some of the Biblical principles we need to apply for better decision making and for the relationship. 

Key Takeaways

• You have to understand each other because you are different. You have to accept those differences and work with it (2:50)
• It is important in the relationship you both understand who God, you each have a relationship with Him and he becomes the final arbiter (judge, the person with the final say) when you have challenges (4:48)
• A healthy and happy relationship has agreement and partners that are equally yoked (7:30)
• Love is a flexible thing. Love is adaptable (15:09)
• When there is an unmet expectation, something has died and that will cause the person to grieve (maybe even become negative in the relationship) (19:49)
• Christ should become the foundation on which we stand when dealing with situations (24:44)

Top Quotes

• One of the things that leads to break up, leads to misunderstanding...is that they do not understand the primary and the secondary love language of their partner (3:16)
• And if you don't have shared values, like what you think about God, and what you think about family, what do you think about friends, those are red flags that you say to couples hold on (8:19)
• So each one of us have an emotional love tank. Emotional love tank is like you have a bank account you had debit or credit. You speak to the individual in their own love language. So (that way) you're topping it up, filling it up to overflow (11:42) 
• He becomes a project which is a wrong attitude to have. If I (as a man) feel that I'm a project to you, I am going to be offended. I'm going to become resentful (15:43)
• It's just that people become hard towards each other. They become offended, they become unforgiving, and you know that unforgiveness and bitterness harden your heart. That is why he encourages us that we must keep clean accounts, we must communicate (18:58)
• To the single women, make sure that you're whole. Getting married is not a when I get married I will fix up myself. Fix up yourself (now). Enjoy yourself in the Lord. Become the best that you can be. So when you get married it is two whole persons (coming together) (26:52)

Resources

• The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts
• Scripture: Ephesians 5:21, Amos 3:3, 2 Corinthians 6:14, Mark 10:2-5, Proverbs 4:23, Matthew 18:22, 1 Peter 3:1-6  

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