Ep.48 All Wrapped Up: 'Breakups, Separation & Divorce (Part 1)?'

Episode Summary

In this All Wrapped Up episode, I do a recap and share my thoughts on Part1 of this 2 part episode on 'Breakups, Separation & Divorce'' which we did in the Chat Room and on Ask the Expert this week. In this All Wrapped Up episode I share my thoughts on the importance of allowing ourselves to recover within a reasonable time and learning from our pain. 

Key Takeaways

• Breakup, separation and divorce take place because there is a break down in the relationship which can lead to discomfort, toxicity, abuse and so on(2:23)
• There is purpose in our pain. We need to figure out the lessons and make the most of the opportunities (8:13)
• We have to be careful to not stay too long in our place of pain because the longer we stay is the longer it hurts (9:44)
• God has given us a system and this is where we will see abundance. The problem is we don't work the system (13:08)
• Conversations of expectations and roles must be had (17:58)

Top Quotes

• Things  that are in the dark, if we do not bring them into the light, meaning  if we feel shame and guilt, and we don't push to share with others,  persons who are Godly counsel, that's going to be a downward spiral for  us (5:26)
• I  saw almost the gift in my pain...You've given this to me, because you  say you turn around all things for the good of those who love you. Let  me run with it and not stay bogged down in my pain and frustration and  so on (8:53)
• After  going through a grieving process, we ought to come to a place where we  start to fall back on who we truly are, as women of God, you know  (12:30)
• What's  inside of me is far greater than my circumstances, weaknesses and  fears, far greater than my failures and disappointments...what is inside  of me, the Holy Spirit (13:28)
• When  we know who we are, and we we are really truly dependent on God as our  source, we know that he will never leave us nor forsake us (14:40)
• It  brought me to the realization that I didn't love him. And then it  brought me to a place where I started to wonder, do I even love myself?  Does he love himself? (21:46)
• Let's  not stay in the place of trauma and shame and guilt and hurt. Let's see  the opportunity in what we have experienced, not minimizing our pain,  but using it for our benefits (27:13)

Resources

• Relationship Quality Questionnaire
• Real Love Character Test
• Scriptures: Romans 8:28, Deuteronomy 28:13, Deuteronomy 31:6. Ephesians 2:10, 1 Corinthians 13:4-8

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