Ep.47 Ask the Expert: 'Breakups, Separation & Divorce' (Part 1)

Today I’m speaking with our expert about this week’s topic. It’s practical. It hits all the hard places, and offers tips and solutions to help us move to the next level.

Episodes Summary

In Part 1 of this 2 part episode of Ask the Expert, Elder and Pastor of Fellowship Tabernacle, Percival Palmer shares some of the red flags he's observed over the years as a marriage counselor working with couples during premarital and marital counseling. 

Key Takeaways

• Premarital  counseling, if it is done properly, will highlight the issues and will  give you a chance  as the persons being counseled to see what the issues  are and then to make good decisions (5:52)
• The final arbitrator should be the Word of God, and that is God speaking into your relationship (8:34)
• Vulnerability is very important for a successful relationship and marriage (14:36)
• We must celebrate our partners because that person is a gift from God, even with their weaknesses (25:45)
• Men are responsible for what happens in a relationship. His primary role is as priest, prophet, protector and provider (28:06)

Top Quotes

• I think we take it lightly, we believe that love will solve all of our problems (4:32)
• There are some things that are non negotiable. I cannot, even if I love the Lord very much (7:59)
• People  have expectations of the other person and they are not saying it and  they will go along. But the other person does not know that is what you  are thinking (10:13)
• Can I be  vulnerable with that individual...the good and the bad. Can they accept  me because if they can only accept the good, you know, you have a  problem (14:36)
• When we filter out  the expectations and the fantasies that are not realistic, or not even  good for us, once we're left with the things that are positive...if that  person doesn't match up then we have to think again about who we're  choosing (21:00)
• God has given this  person to you with their strengths and weaknesses. But if you spend time  in terms of celebrating the other person, you do not take them for  granted (25:19)

Resources

• Kingdom Marriage: Connecting God's Purpose With Your Pleasure
• The Man God Has For You
• Scriptures: 1 Corinthians 13, Genesis 1, Genesis 2

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