Ep.46 The Chat Room: 'Breakups, Separation & Divorce with Carole & Shellie-Ann' (Part 2)

Today I'm going into The Chat Room where women from around the world join me in my virtual studio to discuss the topic of the week. The conversations are really eye-opening and we usually uncover nuggets to help us all live this single life like a boss.

Episode Summary

In Part 2 of this 2 part episode in The Chat Room, divorcees Carole and Shellie-Ann conclude the discussion on Breakups, Separation & Divorce, sharing how they recovered and the lessons they've learned along the way.  

Key Takeaways

• Having  core friends that you can freely share with and doing counseling are  key ways to heal from  trauma, breakup, separation and divorce (3:14)
• Surrounding yourself with the love and comfort of family members will help in the healing process (4:38)
• Self-care is critical as well e.g. changing a hairstyle, taking a vacation, going to the spa and so on(5:38)
• Forgiving yourself and your partner releases you from bondage (12:16)
• You can submit to the point of losing yourself (16:49)

Top Quotes

• It  (counseling) was like, you know when you get that prescription that  just helps you, you see the symptoms start clearing up and then you'll  understand why this happened (4:01)
• You gotta go back to that heavy dosage of love to help you repair your soul, your spirit (5:22)
• I think the question is, is there life after separation? Is there life after divorce? And the resounding answer is yes (9:29)
• I  was serving at church more and I would just every time an opportunity  comes up, I would be just throwing myself into that (9:56)
• Have  I considered remarriage? Yes, certainly. But I am preparing myself in a  way that I should not make the same mistakes that I've made before. And  the person that I am today will be an asset to the person who I'm going  to be joining (11:28)
• I  say to persons as someone who's been there done that, let's have some  quarrels...Let's put it out there the things that hurt me (15:10)
• You  want to know that you gave it your best shot. You prayed it through to  the point where God says, no, this person is no longer trying the heart,  the heart is hard...it's not a flippant decision to get up and get  divorced (22:19)

Resources

• Single, Married, Separated and Life After Divorce
• From I Do to I Don't: Overcoming the Wounds of a Bad Relationship

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