Ep.39 All Wrapped Up: 'My Thoughts & A Recap on Highs & Lows Of Marriage (Part 1)?'

Episode Summary

In this All Wrapped Up episode, I do a recap of what stood out for me from this week's discussions around the topic, 'Highs & Lows Of Marriage''and I add some of my own thoughts. I also discuss a critical point that Kara Peart, from this week's Chat Room segment, brings to light about us needing to allow God to process our relationship with the man we will marry, in His (God's) timing. 

Key Takeaways

• The man we decide to marry should be a best friend and the person we can do life with (1:33)
• The  person we decide to do life with should have a vision for his life, a  vision for us and our visions should be compatible. He should be mature  and ready for marriage (6:49)
• A husband depends on his wife for support (backative) (11:12)
• Husbands need their wives to protect and defend them (12:52)
• Let's  not make relationship-related decisions based on emotions and urges but  based on the man's readiness and God's perspective and timing (32:52)

Top Quotes

• Very  often we get into relationships and the person isn't a best friend,  isn't somebody that we're very comfortable with, that you know we can  talk to about anything and be vulnerable with (1:51)
• We  are close intimate lovers but not friends and I think that is to our  detriment...because it means then that the kind of intimacy and  vulnerability that is necessary for us to handle highs and navigate laws  won't necessarily happen (2:39)
• He  needs a backative...this woman is consistently praying for him,  consistently affirming him, is willing to be a protector, is is willing  to defend his honor, and so on (12:13)
• Some  of the ways that we can protect him is ensuring that our parents and  our friends don't see his vulnerabilities and his weaknesses in a way  that dishonors him (12:52)
• The  point of being under authority, you don't just do what you feel like  doing because then that allows the enemy to come in...because  now...you're going by flesh and emotions, and culture versus what God is  saying (21:43)
• Giving  him room to grow into this decision (to date, love and later marry us)  based on his level of readiness and God's readiness versus, our demands,  our flesh or emotions (32:52)

Resources

• Relationship Quality Questionnaire
• Real Love Character Test
• The ABC's of Choosing A Good Husband
• Scriptures: Genesis 3:8, Romans 18, 1 Samuel 24:1-7, 1 Corinthians 13:4-8

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