Ep.38 Ask the Expert: 'Married 30yrs: How To Achieve More Highs Than Lows' (Part 1)

Today I’m speaking with our experts about this week’s topic. It’s practical. It hits all the hard places, and offers tips and solutions to help us move to the next level.

Episode Summary

In Part 1 of this 2 part episode of Ask the Expert, Karl and Maureen Downer tell us how they've been able to achieve more highs than lows in their marriage of 30 years. The big nugget from Karl is "a woman must find a man that loves her more than she loves him". 

Key Takeaways

• Marriage works when it is committed to God (3:21)
• It's important to look for a husband rather than a man or boyfriend (4:25)
• Seek godly counsel when deciding if this person is for you (11:05)
• We'll make mistakes but we have to ensure that the mistakes do not have a negative impact on our marriage (13:52)
• Husbands should love their wives more than wives love their husbands (17:37)
• The  formula for marriage is giving. Give in order to sustain, maintain and  flourish. Otherwise, your marriage will not work (31:40)

Top Quotes

• Get  into a relationship where you know...this is where God is leading  us...we do things together that will glorify God and for His purpose (9:14)
• It might be comfortable to you, but for me it irritates me. So then, you know, it  breaks our communication...just for that moment (15:32)
• Whatever you practice when you're not married, is the same thing you're going to do when you're married (20:01)
• If  there's a situation rather than both parties saying I don't feel like  it. I don't want to do that...Clearly one person has to decide that love  most we know (29:07)
• In marriage, there's one who's always giving more than the other  (30:18)

Resources

• The Five Love Languages
• The Four Laws of Love
• Kingdom Marriage: Connecting God's Purpose With Your Pleasure
• The Man God Has For You

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