Ep.28 Ask the Expert: 'Weh Di Real Man Dem Deh?' (Part 1)

Today I’m speaking with our expert about this week’s topic. It’s practical. It hits all the hard places, and offers tips and solutions to help us move to the next level.

Episode Summary

In this episode of Ask the Expert, Pastor Courtney Morrison speaks to me on the topic, 'Weh Di Real Man Dem Deh' or in English "Where Are the Real Men?'. Earlier this week we heard from women and men who shared their perspectives on what a real man is. Pastor Courtney now delves deeper to bring a rich spiritual and practical perspective, giving us 14 key characteristics that a man must embody. He also explains that a man must be a true reflector of God, that is, God as Father, God as Son, and God as husband. This is Part 1 of a 2 part episode.
Key Takeaways

• Honesty is a critical characteristic in a real man (10:50)
• A man must exhibit God's personality, maturity, creativity and activity (16:01)
• A real man will self-evaluate against the standards that God has set for him (16:21)
• He  must also be teachable because men aren't perfect but if he isn't  teachable it means where he falls short he won't be willing to work on  (19:07)
• If  a man doesn't line up with some of the 14 key attributes that a real  man ought to exhibit and he's unwilling to change, it can negate all the  other good attributes he already has (25:29)
• A real man must reflect God; God as Father, God as Son, God as Husband (27:13)

Top Quotes

• If  you have a man that is less than honest, run, because all other attributes coming from this, makes me tell you that he is not genuine  (10:52)
• He must be a gentleman who, if he has a family, if he cares about you, he should be looking out for your best interest (12:17)
• Man therefore, is he who reflects the image and the likeness of God (15:05)
• You must therefore try to identify if there are unsurrendered areas in the  gentleman you are courting. And if you are seeing signs of these  unsurrendered areas, red flag! Ask yourself, if he is one of those  gentle, faithful, teachable men (19:10)
• Men  need to recognize, therefore, that we need to do counseling. A good man  reflecting the position of God being teachable, will also become  submissive to counseling (23:16)
• The  word El Shaddai (name of God) means multi-breasted God. So it is a part  of the man's nature, if he's to attribute, to actually show nurturing  attributes (God as Father) (28:02)
• God  as son as Jesus Christ is now submitted to the dictates of His Father.  So He declares this, "whatever I see my Father doing, those are the  things I do" and "whatever I hear Him saying those are the things that I  say" (28:39)
• The  position of the man in loving his wife, even if she's unfaithful, even  if she's unforgiving, even if she doesn't seem to care, he must not  budge...so even as Christ loves the church, so must he love her and must  be willing to give himself (30:23)

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