Ep.26 The Chat Room: 'Weh Di Real Man Dem Deh?' (Part 1)

Today I'm going into The Chat Room where women from around the world join me in my virtual studio to discuss the topic of the week. The conversations are really eye-opening and we usually uncover nuggets to help us all live this single life like a boss.

Episode Summary

In Part 1 of this 2 part episode in The Chat Room, Stephanie and Shadee share their views on the topic, 'Weh Di Real Man Dem Deh?' or in English 'Where Are The Real Men?'. They explain what their initial expectations of a real man were based on what they saw of the father figure in their lives growing up and later how that changed, to some extent, once they became Christians. 

Key Takeaways

• Whatever a father figure models, good or bad, usually determines what we (women) accept as normal from our partners (4:50)
• A  non-Christian can be kind and treat a woman 'right' but He can't be Mr.  Right if He doesn't have a relationship with God (11:06)
• Regardless of what a man is like, we must ask God if he is the one. Because he can be a good man but not our man (20:35)
• When God brings us together with someone, for whatever the reason, there is purpose in it (30:17)

Top Quotes

• A real man is not a perfect man (6:41)
• The first embodiment of a man is usually the man that she (a woman) comes into contact with growing up (9:24)
• In  order for me to to properly assess really and truly if this man or  young man, you know is real, I first have to know if I am real and I  have to understand and know where my grounding is in God (15:43)
• How  does he treat his family members? How well does he relate to  individuals in his community?...Is he able to properly assess his  feelings? (20:02)
• God really has to be involved in that mix to be able to help me to identify and to discern...that this is the one (22:21)
• Once  you have that approval and sanction by God everything else, I won't say  it's gonna become easy, but things start to flow (29:01)

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