Ep.23 Ask the Expert: 'Biological Dangers of Premarital Sex' (Part 1)

Today I’m speaking with our expert about this week’s topic. It’s practical. It hits all the hard places, and offers tips and solutions to help us move to the next level.

Episode Summary

In this episode of Ask the Expert, Dr. Brittanie Clacken explains that our brains are wired, through chemical reactions, to support sexual purity and monogamy. Once we go outside of that preordained construct we rewire the brain to attract and accept self-harm through an increased desire for premarital sex, multiple partners, pornography and adultery.

Key Takeaways

Sex is the two becoming one flesh (Gen 2:24), fused together at the deepest level (Hebrew ehad) (3:43)
There are many spiritual, physical/biological, social, and emotional implications when we have premarital sex (5:16)
Emotional bonding occurs by chemicals in the brain: dopamine (the thrill seeker), oxytocin (female bonding agent) and vasopressin (male bonding agent) (8:05)
Dopamine addicts the couple to want to have sex with each other, even in toxic relationships (13:52)
Sex with multiple partners rewires the brain so that the dopamine release occurs only when you have sex with different partners. This makes it hard to accept monogamy (15:48)

Top Quotes

Sexual purity is the attitude, action and choice of conducting oneself sexually in the way that pleases God (3:30)
Sexual activity...is any intimate contact between two individuals that involves arousal, stimulation, and or a response by at least one of the two partners (6:12)
It's chemical warfare going on. It's spiritual warfare, physical warfare...and a chemical thing that's going on that kind of keeps us sometimes in these negative cycles (12:23)
So even though the activity in and of itself, you know, is hurting you your brain wants to get that dopamine rush (13:47)
It (oxytocin) creates a desire to be near this person, and to place greater trust in this person....and then the more you expose yourself physically to the same person, the harder it will be to say no (18:12)

Resources

The Safest Sex
Sex Should Be Between One Man And One Woman
How Premarital Sex Rewires The Brain
Why Premarital Sex Is A Bad Idea
Scripture references: Genesis 2:24, Proverbs 4:23

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Dr. Brittanie Clacken

Medical Doctor in Emergency Medicine, Wife & Volunteer with Love March Movement

My name is Brittanie Clacken (nee Kemp). I was born and raised in Nassau Bahamas. At age 10 I said the sinner’s prayer and since then, I have been on the ebb and flow of sanctification. Daily, I seek to know God better, and to be salt and light in all my spheres of influence.

I have been married to my husband Wayne for four and a half beautifully challenging years.

Passionate about youth work, I am a Team Leader with the Love March Movement (LMM) – a youth Christian organization which advocates sexual purity, healthy marriages, families, and society. I also volunteer with the youth fellowship of my church.

Regarding my professional career, in May 2011, I graduated from Hartwick College in Oneonta, NY, USA with a Bachelor of Science degree in Biochemistry, Pre-med and in November 2018, I graduated with Bachelor’s in Basic Medicine and Surgery from the University of the West Indies, Mona Jamaica. I am currently working as a Medical Doctor in the Emergency Medicine Department of the University Hospital of the West Indies (UHWI).

I enjoy speaking about relationships, sex, and marriage because I feel like so much has been done to taint their beauty, and so many lives are hurt by failure in these areas. By God’s grace, I hope to shed some light on this very important and interesting topic.