Ep.16 The Chat Room: 'Dangers of Premarital Sex' (Kamique & Shauna)

Today I'm going into The Chat Room where women from around the world join me in my virtual studio to discuss the topic of the week. The conversations are really eye-opening and we usually uncover nuggets to help us all live this single life like a boss.

Episode Summary

Kamique and Shauna open up about the emotional challenges they endured having sex outside of marriage. For a long time, Kamique had sex for the fun of it. She admits though that there came a time when she became emotionally attached which made the breakups devastating. Shauna who was married but now has 4 boys with different men, admits she's still struggling. While Kamique has sought counselling and deliverance, Shauna is just coming to terms with the fact that she needs help. The stories are heart wrenching but there are huge lessons to be learned from these ladies.

Key takeaways

• Women in search of genuine love may engage in premarital sex to fill the gap (3:07)
• Premarital sex doesn't guarantee that you'll find love (6:22)
• To cover up one sin, we may end up indulging in other sins (8:47)
• Peer pressure can drive our sexual habits (11:56)
• When we have emotional wounds or voids, we take pleasuring in pursuing sin (14:07)
• The trauma of premarital sex can last a decade or more sometimes (19:25)
• Self-control is about practice, doing a thing until you get it right (30:55)

Top Quotes

• I  hopped on the roller coaster having no idea that there are some  sections that were higher than others and there were some moments when  you feel as if you're gonna die (4:57)
• It's the enjoyment of the sex why they (men) were sticking around (6:29)
• A  lot of my friends around me had already you know had their first sexual  experience. So, you know, and they come to school and they talk about  it. And, you know, I just felt like I am missing out (11:56)
• I didn't feel emotionally attached to every person that I had sex with (15:40)
• She  (Christian counselor) literally said write down all the names of the  sexual partners on a piece of paper. And she said, I want you to release  every single baggage (17:05)
• There  are days when the enemy will try to remind me of my past. There are  days when he will say to me don't you realize that you're not good  enough (19:42)
• If  you struggle with something e.g. anxiety, you have to think about what  triggers the anxiety, you know, and how are you going to deal with it?  (27:31)

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