Ep.07 Man Talk: 'Me-ology Theology: Does Being Single Make Us Too Me-Focussed?'

Today we're tuning into Man Talk, the segment that unlocks the male perspective on the topic of the week. The conversations are really enlightening but more importantly it will help us all understand the male psyche and how to navigate it for our relationships and marriage.

Episode Summary

In this episode Evon and Shevon continue the discussion on 'Me-ology Theology'. They explain why some Christian men may behave like jerks when they first  transition between being single and being in a relationship. They also give us ideas on what women should expect of a man who is ready for a  relationship. They also tell us that some women fall short because they focus so much on themselves rather than on building their relationship. 

Key Takeaways

• You  can find yourself getting trapped in that cycle of being me-focused  because now you have a pattern (in your singleness) that is going well  (4:01)
• Understand  that even when probably the rubber hits the road, it doesn't mean that  something bad is happening. It's just about you getting acquainted and  acclimatized (12:38)
• It is not a one man show but a two person show (15:55)
• And in growing together, we have to listen. We have to water each other. And that's the only way you'll survive (16:09)
• When  you are so focused on yourself it is natural to hold on to routines,  habits. And so it is difficult at first to want to switch, let go of,  come to a compromise, in order to get to a place where it's about us and  not about just me (19:25)

Top Quotes

• And  so one of the analogy that I would often use in terms of coming  together is actually sugar and water as simple as it is. You have to do  some mixing...eventually when you mix them together you will get what  your desired outcome is (10:51)
• I  understood that first of all, when I meet somebody don't believe that  what you have been doing makes you fully prepared (11:28)
• Because you're so focused on you, you probably don't even want to be in her presence. You don't even want to be friends (13:38)
• You  know you want your space and I'm like give me some space but then we  have to understand that because they're so emotionally attached I have  to compromise on that (21:50)
• I don't really need to understand it because if it makes her feel happy then why not give her that benefit (22:15)
• If she's happy you are happy....your life is going to be automatically easier (28:18)
• It's  a punch to the stomach anytime a man extends himself whether it is  opening the door, paying for meals, washing, whether it is cooking,  whatever the situation is, and it is met with I can do it myself (46:53)

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